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Post by mystoryisgory on Dec 12, 2016 20:49:42 GMT -5
guigsysEstring , I took your advice. Thought about it all day today and came to the logical conclusion: Told her that I want to remain friends for now. That I'm in a bad place right now and wouldn't be able to give full commitment or attention or effort to her and that wouldn't be fair to her or even us. Told her that I still care about her and that we could always try a relationship later in the short term future - that I will keep that door and opportunity always open as I would still love to be in a relationship with her. I ended by saying I desperately still want her in my life, and to see where the future takes us. It was actually really well worded. She hasnt responded yet. I know it hurts though. But I know this was the right thing....FUCK. Tagging Let It Bleed , mimmihopps , eva , Mean Mrs. Mustard , mystoryisgory I called said chick to confirm that I want to just be friends. I did it well but obviously she didnt like it. Oh well. I felt bad but now I don't give a toss. She's selfish AF guigsysEstring , you're right - I have to look after myself. She made this all about her and failed to even see it from my perspective. I don't care anymore, this nightmare is finally over. I stand so proud in that I had the balls to make this decision and did so with my head held very fucking high. Cheers. I'm happy for you man!! They say that one of the hardest things to do is knowing when you should continue to associate with someone (and this goes for friends as well as girlfriends). And take it from a guy who's been there: you do not want to date anyone who only thinks about him/herself. Such traits are often difficult if not impossible to expel from someone unless they care about you very, very much, which isn't likely to happen if they're selfish. On a side note, did you really evoke enough sympathy within me to make me temporarily pause my self-imposed exile from this forum and make a post giving you a word of encouragement? Twat.
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Post by Beady’s Here Now on Dec 12, 2016 21:05:35 GMT -5
I called said chick to confirm that I want to just be friends. I did it well but obviously she didnt like it. Oh well. I felt bad but now I don't give a toss. She's selfish AF guigsysEstring , you're right - I have to look after myself. She made this all about her and failed to even see it from my perspective. I don't care anymore, this nightmare is finally over. I stand so proud in that I had the balls to make this decision and did so with my head held very fucking high. Cheers. I'm happy for you man!! They say that one of the hardest things to do is knowing when you should continue to associate with someone (and this goes for friends as well as girlfriends). And take it from a guy who's been there: you do not want to date anyone who only thinks about him/herself. Such traits are often difficult if not impossible to expel from someone unless they care about you very, very much, which isn't likely to happen if they're selfish. On a side note, did you really evoke enough sympathy within me to make me temporarily pause my self-imposed exile from this forum and make a post giving you a word of encouragement? Twat. I missed the memo. Why are you going into exile?
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Post by guigsysEstring on Dec 12, 2016 21:26:03 GMT -5
guigsysEstring , I took your advice. Thought about it all day today and came to the logical conclusion: Told her that I want to remain friends for now. That I'm in a bad place right now and wouldn't be able to give full commitment or attention or effort to her and that wouldn't be fair to her or even us. Told her that I still care about her and that we could always try a relationship later in the short term future - that I will keep that door and opportunity always open as I would still love to be in a relationship with her. I ended by saying I desperately still want her in my life, and to see where the future takes us. It was actually really well worded. She hasnt responded yet. I know it hurts though. But I know this was the right thing....FUCK. Tagging Let It Bleed , mimmihopps , eva , Mean Mrs. Mustard , mystoryisgory I called said chick to confirm that I want to just be friends. I did it well but obviously she didnt like it. Oh well. I felt bad but now I don't give a toss. She's selfish AF guigsysEstring , you're right - I have to look after myself. She made this all about her and failed to even see it from my perspective. I don't care anymore, this nightmare is finally over. I stand so proud in that I had the balls to make this decision and did so with my head held very fucking high. Cheers. Good for you lad genuinely I hope this is a positive moment that you can use as a springboard towards your recovery- good luck with that first and foremost
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Post by guigsysEstring on Dec 12, 2016 21:27:36 GMT -5
I'm happy for you man!! They say that one of the hardest things to do is knowing when you should continue to associate with someone (and this goes for friends as well as girlfriends). And take it from a guy who's been there: you do not want to date anyone who only thinks about him/herself. Such traits are often difficult if not impossible to expel from someone unless they care about you very, very much, which isn't likely to happen if they're selfish. On a side note, did you really evoke enough sympathy within me to make me temporarily pause my self-imposed exile from this forum and make a post giving you a word of encouragement? Twat. I missed the memo. Why are you going into exile? Something about missing the real world IIRC
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Post by mystoryisgory on Dec 12, 2016 21:47:57 GMT -5
I missed the memo. Why are you going into exile? Something about missing the real world IIRC Believe it or not, Beady’s Here Now, you aren't the center of my attention.
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Post by Beady’s Here Now on Dec 12, 2016 21:52:07 GMT -5
I called said chick to confirm that I want to just be friends. I did it well but obviously she didnt like it. Oh well. I felt bad but now I don't give a toss. She's selfish AF guigsysEstring , you're right - I have to look after myself. She made this all about her and failed to even see it from my perspective. I don't care anymore, this nightmare is finally over. I stand so proud in that I had the balls to make this decision and did so with my head held very fucking high. Cheers. Good for you lad genuinely I hope this is a positive moment that you can use as a springboard towards your recovery- good luck with that first and foremost Now I just got text messages from her telling me that she still loves me, and that she will be waiting for me because she wants to spend her life with me. I fucking hate life.
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Post by Manualex on Dec 12, 2016 22:04:36 GMT -5
Good for you lad genuinely I hope this is a positive moment that you can use as a springboard towards your recovery- good luck with that first and foremost Now I just got text messages from her telling me that she still loves me, and that she will be waiting for me because she wants to spend her life with me. I fucking hate life. Life is so obscene, until it's over, who knows?
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Post by guigsysEstring on Dec 12, 2016 22:14:09 GMT -5
Good for you lad genuinely I hope this is a positive moment that you can use as a springboard towards your recovery- good luck with that first and foremost Now I just got text messages from her telling me that she still loves me, and that she will be waiting for me because she wants to spend her life with me. I fucking hate life. That may seem a callous way to dismiss her texts, but in my experience if the selfishness/tantrums don't work as referenced in your previous post- then the next step is to put on a caring front that includes such words as "love", "forever" and "waiting for you". The question you need to ask Beady’s Here Now is twofold in that a) Has her attitude or behaviour that you have described in your brief time together actually demonstrated any of this? and b) Where was this outpouring of emotion and love when you were explaining your point of view earlier and it became all about her? As I said before this isn't going to be easy but the last thing someone in your situation needs is to be an emotional crutch or sponge for someone else going through their own issues- there is a reason for the professionals as they are paid not to get sucked in and end up in a worse state than they already are. I know you probably don't want to hear/read this but it may end up to get yourself better that she no longer features in your life in any capacity- painful now yes but perhaps in five or ten years having graduated and met a fantastic, caring person who loves you equally would that not be better? As always best mate, and hope you are as OK as you can be
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Post by mimmihopps on Dec 13, 2016 3:06:08 GMT -5
I've got a interview tomorrow on a little local radio to talk about the music of my band. We'll probably be not accompanied by any bandmate, as they will be working. Looking forward to it ! Good luck!
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Post by bastardnumber1 on Dec 13, 2016 3:22:50 GMT -5
Thank you very much for that. I know Paradiso already, it´s a lovely venue but didn´t know the record shop yet and will definitely visit the brewery and their tasting area As I´ve been to Amsterdam a few times already I´m thinking about maybe renting a car for a day and drive a bit around the country (or just take a train and visit Rotterdam for a day). Depending on the weather and my mood. edit: just remembered biblical was posting pictures of Leiden in the other thread looking lovely. Is it worth visiting it in december too? Wouldn´t be far from Amsterdam Why don't you try to ride on a bike in Amsterdam? Leiden is beautiful and it's not far away from Amsterdam, about 43 kilometers. or just like you said, getting on a train and visit Rotterdam or The Hague or Utrecht. The car was meant for outside of Amsterdam But we changed it all now anyway... Thursday morning we fly directly to Rotterdam and stay there for a night. Then via Leiden to Amsterdam. Saturday we we go to the Brewery and whatever we are up to. Sunday afternoon Ajax-PSV, Monday morning back to Munich. As we were looking for concerts or other events we found valhalla festival on saturday in Amsterdam. Does someone know if this is any good? It looks interesting but I´m not sure if it´s really worth 52€
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Post by Elie De Beaufour on Dec 13, 2016 5:49:05 GMT -5
Things I didn't know but do now part 2114: The female vocals on The memory remains was done by Marianne Faithfull
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Post by mimmihopps on Dec 13, 2016 6:31:58 GMT -5
Why don't you try to ride on a bike in Amsterdam? Leiden is beautiful and it's not far away from Amsterdam, about 43 kilometers. or just like you said, getting on a train and visit Rotterdam or The Hague or Utrecht. The car was meant for outside of Amsterdam But we changed it all now anyway... Thursday morning we fly directly to Rotterdam and stay there for a night. Then via Leiden to Amsterdam. Saturday we we go to the Brewery and whatever we are up to. Sunday afternoon Ajax-PSV, Monday morning back to Munich. As we were looking for concerts or other events we found valhalla festival on saturday in Amsterdam. Does someone know if this is any good? It looks interesting but I´m not sure if it´s really worth 52€ If you're interested in art, I recommend you this exhibition: www.theartofbanksy.amsterdam/en/the-art-banksy/I visited it in Summer and I absolute loved it. It's not in a museum, but in a basement of the conference centre. It's located between central station and Dam square, so you can easily walk to there. Don't go to Valhalla Festival. It's not worth for 52 Euro. There's a couple of events where you can visit this Saturday. A free photo exhibition in Melkweg gallary: www.melkweg.nl/en/agenda/l-a-n-exhibition-17-12-2016/Melkweg has their own cafe on the other side of the venue: www.eatatjos.com/I had a lunch at this cafe when my English friends visited Amsterdam 2 years ago. I asked the manager of the cafe if we could see inside the venue and he kindly let us enter the 2 halls. Also a new Dutch band called Bewilder is playing at Bitterzoet this Saturday. www.bitterzoet.com/event/57ea90c5cd9f1b1a00623bdaI've never heard of them before, but the front man used to be an another Dutch band called GEM and after they broke up, he went solo for a while and supported Weller once in 2010. The venue is a sub-venue of Paradiso and quite small. I've seen The La's (acoustic gig with Lee Mavers and a bassist) in this venue in 2011. It's very near to central station. Are you going to watch the match at Arena on Sunday? Stay safe! and you can also see Heineken Music Hall where I saw Oasis in 2005 and 2009, The Stone Roses in 2011 and NGHFB last April. The weather over here today is miserable, rainy and dark. Hopefully you'll bring better weather with you. Have a great time in this clogland!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2016 6:39:39 GMT -5
Good for you lad genuinely I hope this is a positive moment that you can use as a springboard towards your recovery- good luck with that first and foremost Now I just got text messages from her telling me that she still loves me, and that she will be waiting for me because she wants to spend her life with me. I fucking hate life. I broke up with a girl in september because of a situation I couldnt change and didnt feel it was best for either of us to get into anything too deep not because I didnt care about her anymore, she got upset and it fucking killed me to do it to her, she kept texting me and stuff saying she was sorry and blaming herself I decided to tell her that it wasnt her fault at all but things cant be changed and I let it go, anything after that I ignored anything she said to me because I didnt want to give her hope that I might change my mind, came down to being cruel to be kind. if your done with her then just leave her be now, talking it over and over is only going to prolong the inevitable, as harsh as it is to just fuck off, its better for her as it draws a line and will allow her to move on, youve told her why so she has the reasoning.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2016 8:21:08 GMT -5
Wow, Spotify has created me "Your Top Songs 2016" playlist with 101 songs and it's pretty damn good! They also gave me lots of different stats and some of them actually scares me... I've listened to 57 809 minutes music this year, that's like 40 days! 1029 different artists and 4132 different songs. My top tracks were She Bangs The Drums, I Wanna Be Adored and Cigarettes & Alcohol. Top artists were: Oasis (it says I belong to "top fan percent" or something), Stone Roses, The Beatles, The Smiths and The Jam.
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Post by Beady’s Here Now on Dec 13, 2016 8:43:46 GMT -5
There's beauty in the breakdown.
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Post by bastardnumber1 on Dec 13, 2016 8:53:37 GMT -5
mimmihopps Thanks so much for all the info, really appreciate it. Love the Banksy exhibition. Will definitely go there. Also I just bought tickets for the Bewilder gig, listened to a few songs before and they sound very nice. Also saw that New Model Army play at Melkweg on Sunday. I´m no fan but they are fine so maybe we go there after the match if we have time. And yeah we will go to Amsterdam Arena, I know some of Ajax F-Side. Crazy lads but friendly when they trust you I hope for no rain, forecast says so at least but I´m trying my best to bring Sun
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2016 8:57:06 GMT -5
bastardnumber1 It seems you're in the "football scene" ( or ultras ). Which team do you support?
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Post by The Escapist on Dec 13, 2016 8:59:07 GMT -5
There's beauty in the breakdown. There is an answer in a question, And there is hope within despair, And there is beauty in a failure, And there are depths beyond compare. There is a role of a lifetime, And there's a song yet to be sung, And there's a dumpster in the driveway, Of all the plans that came undone.
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Post by bastardnumber1 on Dec 13, 2016 9:18:15 GMT -5
bastardnumber1 It seems you're in the "football scene" ( or ultras ). Which team do you support? Rapid Wien (Vienna). I grew up with them and as I´m a bit a pyromaniac it was just great. With my italian background I also had a lot of friends at Fossa dei Leoni in Milan which was a huge Ultra group. But I kinda stopped being that "hardcore" at the end of my 20s (driving to every game, getting into trouble. Not cause of fighting, never was happy about it. But mostly cause of pyro. Cops have more problems with that than with drugs or fighting it seems nowadays). Also there are more important things they say But stuff like that still turns me on a lot
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Post by oasisserbia on Dec 13, 2016 9:36:49 GMT -5
Bitch please :-) 1991 champions league semi-final
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2016 9:44:52 GMT -5
bastardnumber1 It seems you're in the "football scene" ( or ultras ). Which team do you support? Rapid Wien (Vienna). I grew up with them and as I´m a bit a pyromaniac it was just great. With my italian background I also had a lot of friends at Fossa dei Leoni in Milan which was a huge Ultra group. But I kinda stopped being that "hardcore" at the end of my 20s (driving to every game, getting into trouble. Not cause of fighting, never was happy about it. But mostly cause of pyro. Cops have more problems with that than with drugs or fighting it seems nowadays). Also there are more important things they say But stuff like that still turns me on a lot I agree. Ultras and pyros are a big part of football. Hooliganism isn't By the way, you remember Rapid Wien vs HJK in EL quals? That was fucking great for us. I was so excited that a Finnish club went to Europa League group stage. I was actually drinking with many HJK fans last weekend, most of them had travelled to Vienna to watch the game. I don't have a favourite club because my local team plays in Finnish 7th(!) division so it's a bit hard to get passion from those games when I could play in the team myself "My team" is actually our national team. I've been to every home game in the last few years and from now on I try to attend away games as well. We have our "ultras section" there. Nothing big. Basically just standing and chanting the whole game. I think we'd have pyros as well but our police and football association are fucking idiots. They catch everyone and fine them heavily (thousands of euros per pyro) so no one wants to do it anymore.
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Post by bastardnumber1 on Dec 13, 2016 10:01:01 GMT -5
Rapid Wien (Vienna). I grew up with them and as I´m a bit a pyromaniac it was just great. With my italian background I also had a lot of friends at Fossa dei Leoni in Milan which was a huge Ultra group. But I kinda stopped being that "hardcore" at the end of my 20s (driving to every game, getting into trouble. Not cause of fighting, never was happy about it. But mostly cause of pyro. Cops have more problems with that than with drugs or fighting it seems nowadays). Also there are more important things they say But stuff like that still turns me on a lot I agree. Ultras and pyros are a big part of football. Hooliganism isn't By the way, you remember Rapid Wien vs HJK in EL quals? That was fucking great for us. I was so excited that a Finnish club went to Europa League group stage. I was actually drinking with many HJK fans last weekend, most of them had travelled to Vienna to watch the game. I don't have a favourite club because my local team plays in Finnish 7th(!) division so it's a bit hard to get passion from those games when I could play in the team myself "My team" is actually our national team. I've been to every home game in the last few years and from now on I try to attend away games as well. We have our "ultras section" there. Nothing big. Basically just standing and chanting the whole game. I think we'd have pyros as well but our police and football association are fucking idiots. They catch everyone and fine them heavily (thousands of euros per pyro) so no one wants to do it anymore. Well Hooliganism is also a big part of it although most people don´t want it. Football in europe is a sport for everyone. From the guy living on the street up to the rich manager of some company. Same goes for hools, they are not just drunken idiots. You will find lawyers, doctors, managers punching eachother for fun. As long as they do it some place where nobody who´s not involved can be hurt I have no problem with it, and as long as it´s without weapons. There can also be passion about a team in lower leagues. In Austria Red Bull bought Austria Salzburg and changed everything (colors, name,...). So they created their own club in the lowest austrian league. They had their fun still, bringing 1000+ people home and away which is a lot in austria, and even came up to 2nd league 2 years ago (now having money problems and not a proper place to play but they still support their team). At the end it´s all about the fun. Ultras is probably the biggest youth movement in europe for the last 10-20 years. Shouldn´t be left out by the ones saying "uuuh they all are idiots burnin stuff and getting drunk" oasisserbia you can´t compare eastern europe to middle europe when it´s about this. Also you can´t compare the 80s/90s to now. Laws have changed too much.
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Post by bastardnumber1 on Dec 13, 2016 10:05:28 GMT -5
Oh and yeah I remember the games against HJK. Pissed me off a lot But as it was a finnish team I could live with it. Don´t think they did well after I think
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Post by Beady’s Here Now on Dec 13, 2016 10:06:15 GMT -5
There's beauty in the breakdown. There is an answer in a question, And there is hope within despair, And there is beauty in a failure, And there are depths beyond compare. There is a role of a lifetime, And there's a song yet to be sung, And there's a dumpster in the driveway, Of all the plans that came undone.
Nah mate.... Used to great effect in the 2004 Movie Staring Zach Braff, Garden State. Which is my all time favorite movie. It is so damn good. But I digress.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2016 10:08:58 GMT -5
Oh and yeah I remember the games against HJK. Pissed me off a lot But as it was a finnish team I could live with it. Don´t think they did well after I think They struggled at first but then they started playing better. They won both Torino and Copenhagen at home and in the last game (away at Brugge) they still had a chance to get in round 32. But they ended up losing 2-1.
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